Imagine meeting the love of your life all from an Instagram post that by chance appeared on your suggested feed. It may seem unimaginable, but believe me it can happen as that is exactly what happened to me. My relationship all began thanks to cricket, in fact a Mumbai Indians match. Not the most normal of starts, but then I wouldn’t expect anything less. Nothing about us is normal and that is whats makes us “us”. It is our normal, something that many do not understand and are at the same time envy of.
Our connection stemmed much deeper than just cricket however, a connection that only few would understand and few will ever know.
In England I have grown up by the sea all my life, and it is a part of me. You learn to respect it, understand it, understand what life means on the sea also, and appreciate its power and what it can do. You live and breathe it, and since a little girl it has been a constant in my life. Something that has always been there, something that I have turned to in times of need and comfort, and a love of mine. You could also say it was born in me, for my connection to the sea is in my DNA, being in my family for generations.
So was the Instagram post just chance or fate? I believe it was fate for this reason. Unknown to me at the time, the post belonged to a man from Lucknow who was becoming a sailor. A man that also dreamt of the sea, understood it, loved and needed it and which was embedded deep in his heart. Just like it was for me. A man who not only had the same love as me, but was the most amazing person I had ever met, a man who changed my life as soon as he entered it.
From that immediate connection, love flourished. A love that was strong and mutual, that didn’t care that we were from two different backgrounds, cultures, religions of Hindu and Christian, or even countries. None of that mattered to the point we have never even discussed it. The only things that have mattered is our love and family, being our strongest asset. Everything else is a part of our love, accepted and understood. We have become blended, becoming half of each other whilst adapting to and creating our new way of life which has forever kept changing.
Our life, 4 years on, is now a fusion of English and Indian ways, religions and customs. We observe our festivals together, from Christmas to Navratri and Kawa Chauth. We speak both English and Hindi (I am still learning!), we watch Bollywood films together and English football, and I am still mastering Indian cuisine (not quite mastered a perfect round roti yet!).
Most importantly it now also involves our love of the sea even more, since he got his calling. There is now officially three of us in our relationship. We are now the Sea, a Sailor and a Sailor’s wife, a Sailor’s queen, and I wouldn’t change it for the world.